Thursday, April 27, 2006

There's One in Every Family....

I love Matt so much. Because he's my best friend. Because no one can make me laugh the way he can. Because he loves me - spoiled little rich girl attitude and all. Because no matter what we're doing, we're having a good time as long as it's together. Because when Matt really wants something he begins his sentences with, "BABY....I LOOOOOOOOVE YOU" and if the conversation is in person instead of over the phone, he rubs his head against my arm like a cat. It's so friggin' cute, I simply cannot resist it. He's just too damn silly!

I am the less frivolous of the two of us - not necessarily because I spend less, but working in accounting has taught me to keep track of where my money goes, so I spend less on unnecessary commodities. Matt, on the other hand, will spend it if he's got it. Thus, I am in charge of paying the bills and budgeting our money and will only let Matt have his debit card if he needs to make a large purchase (i.e. the concrete we're pouring for our walkway tomorrow). Last week I let Matt have his debit card because we were supposed to pour the concrete over the weekend and he needed the card number. He kept the card for a whole day and ended up spending $30 on sausages because they stopped in a deli. SAUSAGES!! What in God's name are we going to do with $30 worth of sausages?!?

This afternoon I got the "baby....I loooooove you" phone call at the office. We're going out to dinner with one of Matt's coworkers and his girlfriend tomorrow night. They're a little bit country (we're a little bit rock and roll), an older couple in their late 40s, and I have no problem going out to dinner with them, so I know there must be more to this plea. Oh we're not just going to dinner, we're going to a country dance club here in town. Pure Country. I don't dance. No, I can't dance. We're not taking ballroom dancing classes before our wedding for Matt - we're taking them for ME - and country line dancing? Yikes! That's a disaster waiting to happen. But there's more. Matt wants to DRESS country. I'd like to clarify here that I have no problem with people who dress like cowboys and cowgirls, it's just not MY personal style. I'm trying to be a good sport about this. I have a pair of riding boots from when I used to show horses and I'm sure I have some country looking things left over from when I worked at a ranch when I was 19. I'm sure I can dig up SOMETHING country.

But none of this is why Matt is calling up and being cutesy. He wants me to stop at a western wear store after work and buy him: a cowboy hat, a belt buckle, and a pair of cowboy boots. We are at a point in our life where we need to be extremely frugal because we need to save up for a wedding and honeymoon that's costing US a 5 digit amount (not to mention what my parents and Matt's are contributing). We both have good jobs and make good money and if he'd called up any time after August 5 and asked for such items, I would've said yes in a heartbeat, but when it comes to money, my mind is very single-tracked: SAVE FOR WEDDING. But the thing is, I can't say no to Matt, and when he points out how much I spend to get my nails done biweekly and how much I'm spending to get my hair colored this weekend (and how much I just spent on Arbonne tha, I feel like a big gloopy piece of crap. I've figured my hair and nails into our wedding budget, and I give Matt a hefty amount of cash at the beginning of every week to spend on whatever his little heart desires, but he wants a cowboy hat and boots and a big ol' ugly belt buckle for tomorrow night. ONLY for tomorrow night.

Strangely enough, this is one of the reasons I love Matt so damn much. He lets me bitch at him for a while about our budget and saving money and how totally ludicrous it is for him to spend money on a pair of boots he'll only wear ONE night and he tries to convince me that he'll wear them more (it's like the little kid who tries to talk his mom into getting him a dog by promising he'll always take care of him), but the fact of the matter is, I don't WANT him to wear them more because I'm somewhat of a superficial snob. I talk him down into just a cowboy hat (which he talked me into going to buy for him when I get off work today because I'm such a sucker) because he said he'd get lots of use out of it at work. Okay. I love this about Matt because he always lets me lecture him about money because it's the part of our relationship that I handle. Matt and I fight and bicker over a lot of stupid things and a lot of not-so-stupid things, but the one thing we've never fought about is money. If it's true that that's the biggest problem in relationships, we're off to a good start (and it'll play an enormous factor in our lives when we start our business in a couple years and I have to manage our personal money and the business accounts). Anyway, I'm off to go buy a cowboy hat for my silly (albeit loveable) fiance.


Anonymous Laura said...

Oh how I envy you. Money is just about the only thing Robbie and I argue about. But luckily he is learning to let go of the idiotic finacials ways that he learned from his parents and gaining some financial responsibility. It's a slow process though. Can't wait to see Matt with his new cowboy hat!

4/28/2006 12:04 PM

Blogger Karen said...

Ack. I'd die if Brian wanted boots, a buckle, and a hat! We're so not country either.

The hat was a good compromise though. Hey, every man looks hot in a cowboy hat!

4/28/2006 12:58 PM

Anonymous Jennifer said...

LOL. Trey and I "tawlk" country being from the south and all, but we sure dont wear cowboy boots and hats and such. Trey would be just like that though, he'd want stuff to wear that ONE night, and he would promise me he would wear them AGAIN, but NEVER will.

I know what you mean about the money, I think I tend to save more, but then again I too handle our bills, money etc. I dont think Trey even knows how much money we have right now. I know he has a rough idea, but as far as how much is in checking, he could have the slightest idea. Sometimes I feel bad though, seeing as how he makes all the money, and I manage it, I do tend to buy myself more stuff and when HE wants something I'm like NO! THATS CRAZY! WE NEED TO KEEP SAVING! but I always get what I want... oh well. lol.

4/30/2006 1:25 AM

Anonymous Liz said...

How did that night go? You should post pictures of Matt in his hat so we can see him. :)

5/01/2006 9:17 AM


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