Monday, April 17, 2006

Whose Wedding Is It Anyway?

Happy belated Easter to all! We had a white Easter. Yup - on Thursday it was 67 degrees and everyone in the office was antsy with spring fever - by Saturday evening, it was dumping snow, but that's northern Nevada for you. We'd planned on spending the holiday with my parents who live in Tahoe and at 9:15 in the morning when we left our house it didn't seem so bad. In fact, it wasn't even so much as raining in Reno, but once we got onto the mountain pass that connects Reno to Lake Tahoe, we were in for quite an adventure. Snow was dumping on the summit and somewhere around the middle of the pass, the visibility got bad. Real bad. We were basing the curve of the road from one dark object to the next and constantly hoping those dark objects weren't cars. Nothing will make you lose your depth perception quite like a white out.

Thankfully we made it safely to Tahoe. We went to mass at the church Matt and I will be married in and the priest, worried about the safety of everyone driving, "streamlined" the mass from the typical hour into a half hour. We stuck around afterward so Matt and I could start filling out paperwork and get filled in on the requirements to get married in the Catholic church (there's a handful of 'em!) and when we were done with that, my dad practiced walking me down the aisle and Matt and I stood in front of the altar, grinning stupidly at each other. With just over 100 days left till the BIG DAY, it's really starting to hit home. On the drive home, I apologized to Matt in advance for what will become my inability to shut up the wedding in the months to come.

The truth of the matter is, I'm in heaven. This is my forte. I am an organized perfectionist and with the countdown to the wedding ticking down, I've shifted into overdrive and I couldn't be happier (though I don't think I can say the same for anyone who might derail my forward pace). One of my maids of honor (I have two...which is kind of a long, dramatic it seems most stories involving crazy brides and their bridesmaids usually are) was still without a dress which had steam seeping from my ears and my head spinning. The dress shop said it usually takes 3 months for a special ordered dress to arrive and with just over 3 months left to my wedding and my numero uno maid of honor being the only bridesmaid who had yet to get her dress, I was about to lose my typically calm demeanor. After 2 months of pestering her that she absolutely could not get her dress any later than April 15, she finally made a trip out to Reno (she lives about 2 hours away, but don't let her being an out-of-towner let you believe that's any excuse for her to be dressless - one of my bridesmaids lives in Alaska). We got her measured and her dress ordered and as Murphy's Law would have it, she received a call today that the only way she'll receive her dress in time for the wedding is if we expedite the order. I offered to pay the expedite fees because I felt bad, but at the same time, I had been bitching incessantly in her ear for 2 months about getting her dress...Se la vie.

One of the requisites of receiving the sacrament of matrimony (or, simply, being married in the Catholic church) is that Matt and I attend an "Engaged Encounter" weekend. I haven't fully figured out what exactly this is - the brochure tells us it is "an intense weekend of marriage preparation" that will encourage engaged couples to "examine their own relationship" and "the focus of the weekend follows a natural progression from the individual - to the couple - to the church - to the world." It cost us $160 and will end up being a total of 25 and a half hours (on the Saturday of the "encounter" we have to be there from 8 in the morning to 9:30 at night!! That's a LOT of religion) and without the certificate we'll receive at the end of the weekend, we'll be unable to have a Catholic ceremony. We also have to meet with a "marriage preparation team." I know it probably sounds like overkill to non-Catholics (I'll be the first to admit that my religion is somewhat obsolete in certain aspects), but I think there's something to all this preparation - Catholics really drive home the part of the vows "TILL DEATH DO US PART." A good portion of the interview we had with the priest over Easter was verifying that we were absolutely certain we wanted to spend THE REST OF OUR LIVES together, that we understood all that entails, and that no one is forcing us into this union (i.e. a shot-gun wedding...LOL). A lot of people don't take the commitment of marriage as serious as they should - divorce rates don't lie - and I find it refreshing that Catholics are so hell-bent (no pun intended) on really stressing the finality and fidelity of marriage.

Over the weekend, I also got my shoes which were the missing element of my bridal ensemble - it is now completed, so today I set an appointment for my dress alteration. I'm excited for the alteration if for no other reason than to wear my dress again - I haven't put it on since February of 2005 when we bought it (though I do often pay it visits whenever I go see my parents) and God knows the damn things cost enough that you SHOULD be able to wear it for more than one day. Nonetheless, I do plan on trying to pawn it off on my daughter one day (who will inevitably crinkle up her nose and give me the same look and say the same thing I said when my mom suggested I wear her dress. "But it's soo obsolete and sooo not me").

And we booked our honeymoon - Cabo San Lucas, here we come! I know on my old blog, where I so shamelessly asked for donations, I said we were going to NYC. But then Matt came home for leave and he'd had to stop in Ireland so he said we just HAD to go to Ireland, and hey, I was up for it. How cool would it be to say we went to Ireland for our honeymoon? And then I started having second thoughts because honeymoons are for relaxing and relishing in our newly wed status. I had recurring nightmares of us driving around Ireland on the wrong side of the street with an inadequate rent-a-car and a map and the fights that would ensue (anyone ever seen the movie "Just Married"?). I didn't even have to mention to Matt that I was having second thoughts about Ireland because around the same time he mentioned to me that he was having second thoughts. Great minds think alike! So we settled on the beach honeymoon which is perhaps a little cliche, but there's a reason it's so popular, right?

I can't believe Matt's been home for a month now! I'm settling right into his nightly presence (though I still cry from time to time because I feel him curled up next to me at night and I remember how lonely I was while he was gone and how happy I am now...this post-deployment crying really is quite an anomaly); anyway, with the initial "HE'S HOME!" excitement simmering down, you can expect to be reading more wedding posts and perhaps they'll all be titled "Confessions of a Bridezilla." LOL :)~


Blogger CaliValleyGirl said...

Man...isn't it such sweet bliss to write a post without the words Afghanistan, deployment and "waiting for him to come home"? I am so excited about your upcoming wedding, and I look forward to hearing all the Bridezilla details!

4/18/2006 8:30 AM

Blogger Courtney said...

Yay how exciting!!! I hope your maid of honor gets her dress in time. And I agree it is very fun to try on the dress you want over and over again. It never gets old.

4/18/2006 12:36 PM

Anonymous Christy said...


P.S. It's YOUR wedding, go crazy!

4/19/2006 5:53 PM

Anonymous Jennifer said...

I love this blog. lol.

I cant believe your wedding is only 3 months away! Its going to be here before you know it. Dont let it stress you out too bad - it can be hectic. I was a sobbing mess before mine trying to get things done that cant be done until the last minute. Looking back on the whole thing, I would have never gotten so stressed. I would have enjoyed the whole thing a little more!! Enjoy your wedding - dont stress over it!! And thats my little advice for the day... not that it counts for much. haha.

4/21/2006 12:57 PM

Anonymous Christy said...

Dude I just noticed the address of your blog (dumb me!) "Fake grass is always green." I LOVE IT! How true.

You rock more than words can say!

I'll update with a Charley post soon!

4/21/2006 8:47 PM


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